In martial arts, we teach our students to be strong and resilient because, at some point, they will experience a setback.
A few common setbacks that a student might face include:
- Mental blocks or fears
- A disappointing performance at a competition
- Not moving up a level or qualifying for the next belt rank
- Struggling with a skill
- Experiencing a plateau
- Lack of motivation or interest in weekly classes
These types of experiences are tough for anyone to face. So how can we help young martial arts students bounce back from this type of setback?
1. Focus on the Controllable
Setbacks can result from factors that are outside of a student’s control. Sometimes a normal, healthy thing, like growing, creates a setback. When a child experiences a growth spurt, it can call for making significant adjustments. The skills that once seemed simple and easy could now be more difficult. Fixating on “fixing” what can neither be fixed nor controlled won’t help.
2. Change “Why Me?” to “Why Not Me?”
No one is immune to setbacks. Obstacles will pop up, as well as in pretty much all areas of life. There is nothing you can do to prevent a setback. But you can choose how you will handle it. Instead of asking, “why me?” and focusing on the negative aspects of a setback, ask, “why not me?” instead. Use this as an opportunity to improve resilience.
3. Focus on Taking Action
Rather than staying focused on feeling frustrated and disappointed, help your child focus on taking action. If the setback concerns a past competition, shift the focus away from the past. Focus on what they can work on in the future. Don’t dwell on the cause of the setback. Instead, work to let it go and focus on moving forward.
The Way Family Dojo in Magnolia provides a positive environment where kids can learn and improve their martial arts skills. To learn more about getting your child started with one of our martial arts programs, contact us today.